And they call anger an “illness”…
I think it makes me sick to know that people are making excuses for their anger. It’s saddening, disheartening, disappointing, troubling… to know that people are not taking responsibility.
Iron-clad responsibility is what a successful person is made of. No excuses, no arguments. Just plain, simple responsibility. If you are upset, burst out in anger, you made a choice.
An athlete does not go to the Olympics to train. He goes to the Olympics to win. In life, whenever your relationships call for it, you can’t just wait and tell people “I’m just an angry person - that’s the way I was born”.
According to John DiLemme, no way! That’s the way you conditioned your bad habit of anger. I know I used to have anger, but it’s not an illness. If I had cancer, I’d have an illness and I may need someone else to help me out there. But if I have anger, I can’t go for surgery.
The fastest surgery for your anger is a bad one - then you don’t have to feel angry anymore - period!
I think that if you are constantly feeling like your anger is not a part of you, you are sadly mistaken. To get angry, upset, frustrated… all that heart-wrenching pain you may have felt, is perfectly human. You are a living, breathing, thinking human being.
An illness is something that requires an external party to handle. Anger is an emotional state. How to control it is an emotional muscle. Have you practiced figuring out how you get angry?
I get angry when people accuse me of things I didn’t do. - frivolous.
I get angry when life is wasted and people who love them are hurt. - powerful.
How you get angry, when you get angry and how quickly you shift from being angry to calm is a reflection of what you can do with your emotional muscle.
Train it. Hone it.
Then when it needs flexing, you will know how to prevent yourself from frivolous anger.
Related Posts:
http://www.stuart-tan.com/2006/11/10/teleseminar-with-john-dilemme/
http://www.stuart-tan.com/2006/10/07/john-dilemme-find-your-why/
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