Stuart’s Philosophies

Depression is by far one of the most common emotional states that people will have especially in civilized society. I believe most people have experienced depression one time in their life or other, but at the same time, what happens when it gets out of hand?

I know many of you might have relatives or friends were constantly feeling down. For the most part, it’s natural for people to feel sad, but on the other hand I wonder how healthy it is for us to constantly feed this bad habit.

That’s right, it’s a bad habit.

I’ve always considered sadness and depression to be something that we should never hold on to. Whenever I experience sadness, I want to find a way to utilize the creatively rather than to let it implode on me.

So in this respect, I use depression to help me with creative works. For instance, music, poetry, writing. I believe that one of my most productive times on my Blogs, was when I was feeling extremely down. There was a time where I’d use writing to process my thinking.

At the same time, you might actually have people whom you are close to and would like to help them. My recommendation is you should help them to recognize that pattern of depression and make them feel more resourceful about themselves. Resourcefullness is about having things like a greater sense of confidence, a greater sense of being able to take initiative, and just feeling good for no good reason. In my opinion, we don’t practice our positively emotional states as much as we practice negative ones.

I mean have you ever taken a friend who’s extremely depressed out for comedy? If you did, you find that they don’t have a sense of humor! That’s because they are in the wrong state! What does this mean? They can’t appreciate humor in a bad state! It basically means that in order for someone to feel less depressed, they need someone to help them assess and shift the states. While psychiatric medicine must have helped some people, I don’t think it’s necessary. After all, there’s so much in our biochemistry that allows us to manipulate our own mental brew of medicine, that we should be able to take charge of them ourselves.

Depression is what I consider a low state. There are different causes, but I’m not interested in those causes. What I’m interested in is how to get out of them. Most people try to understand the causes of depression, and end up getting even deeper into the problem itself. One of my counsellor-trainers mentioned to me that if you dig deeper you’ll find more dirt.

That’s exactly the way of depression.

If you really want to look up for the root causes, get them to look out for more root causes of pleasure and happiness. Some people just do not know how to rehearse positive emotions, and that’s one of the biggest failures in life. My opinion is to get them to return back to the past and stop thinking about negative things by reinforcing the positive and exciting things in their life.

While this may seem to you to be common sense, it’s not always easy for the person who is in the position of helping to be able to do this. That is the reason why some training and some modeling of the coach or helper is necessary.

I’m actually in the process of developing a few tools to help people to model after effective personal development processes. This will turn into a modeling club which will be facilitated with another friend of mine, Sam Witteveen.  Sam is a really a hilarious guy, and I always enjoy my discussions with him. The most important part of this, is that we seem to learn a lot ourselves simply by talking and refreshing things from all memories.

Someone with depression, would easily fit into our conversation because we’ll just do so many, comedic things that this person’s states would completely change. This premiere modeling club will only have up to fifteen people in attendance for an entire year. So far, this is probably one of the first of its clubs to ever be launched, but I believe it will be extremely beneficial because people who want to help others need to stay on the forefront of learning the skills of modeling for a couple of reasons.

Number one, if you understand the structure of that person’s experience, you can change it. Number two, if you find one model that works, you probably want to find as many models that work so that you can remain flexible in your approach to creating change.

That being said, some people prefer to be depressed. Everywhere in their lives, they take look as if someone had died. I guess that’s still a choice, but it’s a choice that they have to live with. In my opinion, I think it’s not very fun.

It’s easier to say this way in survival needs have already been taken care of. So here’s what I suggest: in order for someone to be really happy you need to establish some form of security in your finances, in your wealth, and in making sure that to moral won’t be an uncertain day. That is why, I think that career development, executive coaching and even business coaching helps to solidify your financial future if you can find someone to be your coach.

Depression is nothing more than an emotional state. We can do 101 things to create that change. Every time you come into contact with someone who has a depressed state, not only do you need to be tactful about it, you have to shift that person out from the state by whatever means you possibly can.

Anyone who wants to know a little more about ways to handle depression, do with cite some examples in the comments below and I will help to answer them.

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Emotions, General