I’m writing this strictly because there are a number of reports about the number of teenagers who are now flirting with the idea of death. I think there’s a certain allure of death, because it appears to be so appealing, and all problems can end there. The problem is this - problems will end, only for you. You’ll be passing the problem down to other people, and that’s not always fair.

These are the National Suicide Statistics from the Samaritans of Singapore.

What is important is that as a friend, you might be able to lend a helping hand. There are a number of things you should bear in mind if you think someone is suicidal. Most people who are suicidal end up being extremely withdrawn, but don’t let that fool you into thinking that extroverts don’t have suicidal thoughts. At the end, most people are just not aware enough to detect if their friend is about to go jump off a building.

First, get to know your friends and be aware of them and their changes in moods. Often, a charcteristic like being withdrawn and depressed may not show unless you have spoken to them. Many people have the ability to cope with their distresses, and often a support group is one of those places where they can go to if it becomes overwhelming.

Second, take all mentions of suicide seriously, even if it comes up as a joke. IF someone has a plan to kill themselves, this is a sign that they are really in it. The fact you become attuned to this, you’ll be in a position to listen and diffuse the ticking timebomb.

Third, learn to be empathetic. I know some of you think it’s ridiculous for someone to think his private parts are too small and then go jump off a building (reported in the Straits Times a few days ago). You might laugh. But for the reality is that they really have an internal mental model and belief system that is real to them. Empathy allows you to accept their mental models instead of treating their ideas as wierd or unnatural. Often, a person who has them and knows they are wierd will not be inclined to talk about them. However, if you suspend your judgement for a while, you find you up your chances of being able to help them further.

For any questions relating to suicide and suicide intervention, you should contact a professional in your area or the Samaritans of Singapore at 1800-221-4444.