Congruent Intentions

Recently, I heard that someone thought it would be interesting to join the coaching fraternity as a means to develop his career. First of all, this is certainly well-intentioned but this is not the kind of coach I look for and it has never been.

 

It will most definitely be the first person I throw out of any training if I were to come to know about it, and the priority is wrong. I’ve always prided myself for having gotten great coaches who, out of their contributions, develop people in the Patterns of Excellence program. I see their contributions applauded by the closeness and bonding among the different participants.

 

Some people will argue:

“But you said we have to do whatever it takes”

“But you said we must be committed”

“But you said if we can’t we must”

 

Well, excuuuuse me. I also said:

“Be responsible”

“Be honest”

“You get whatever you want if you first help other people get what they want”

 

Or did people forget this?

 

In any case, I need not police this. The pool of experienced coaches I have groomed over the years can detect whether a person has genuine interest of the participants at heart or not. It’s not difficult to tell.

 

However, am I saying that you are not allowed to solicit business and develop yourself? No. I’m saying that at the time of anyone joining as a coach, if the intent was contaminated by focusing only on self-benefit, that’s not the way to go. If things happen after the program, it is going to benefit you a hundred times more because it is through your genuine work and concern that people end up wanting to stay in touch with you. That “pull” factor is much more than just the “push” factor that most people dislike in heavy-handed, hardball selling.

 

Focus on how to give other people what they want. Through the natural laws of the universe, you will find that you will be rewarded more. I’ve seen that happen for the dedicated coaches who have passed through my program, and they have used the skills I have transferred to develop themselves and their future success.